Your Choices Either Make You Or Break You
It is often said that you are your choices. Even if you are not choosing a thing, it is also a choice. So why not choose for your advantage. Life is unexpected in many ways, which gets you to make difficult choices at times. And these are going to be tough moments for you. But in anyway, you got to make choices that may work for you.
I used to often hear such stuff here and there, but didn’t have an idea of how much significance it holds. Actually, I could not measure until recently when I faced circumstances that broke my heart. P.S: I would prefer not mentioning the incident here. It happens when your loved ones unmask and show their true colors, you learn the true meaning of life. Particularly, their repeated non-acceptable actions lead us to choose for ourselves — our self-esteem.
Choose To Leave Negative People Behind
As you grow up, you realize that the people you spend a major part of your lives with don’t align with the set of values or temperament you have. Sometimes you have clash of opinions which eventually follows with an element of jealousy between the two at times. Things keep deteriorating along with the time. And since energies are contagious, you got to decide for yourself and leave ’em behind. Because their negativity would eat your sanity too. I know, that’s not easy.
On this, I must quote a perfect saying of Albus Dumbledore, which is:
“Sometimes we have to choose between what is right and what is easy.”
Choose To Focus On Your Goals
This year, I have set goals for my life — considering all aspects of it. And for which, I need to stay conscious. I mustn’t let my energies drain for something which is not adding up to my life. Choose to stay focused on the right things (as per plan) and do not let the external factors affect you. Doing so will ultimately lead to the right direction. Breathe, breathe, and breathe! And remind yourself, who you are and what you want — because these are the values which clarify the purpose of life for you. And you cannot afford to lose it — in any case. Or you know the consequences very well, that is, you’ll lose yourself.
Choose Your Energy To Infuse With Positivity
As the title of this piece says, “your choices either make you or break you”, you need to work on yourself more than anything else. There are certain ways of keeping yourself at bay of toxicity. And amongst those many, I find establishing personal boundaries the most helpful so far. I start keeping distance from people who don’t support the traits of my personality. So I may not be affected with their negativity. If I have to grow, I need to find my crowd. And that doesn’t necessarily include my family members, friends, spouse, children, or any loved one. Positive vibes are free of the limitations of race, creed, age, gender, etc. Choose to surround yourself with the people who feel like home. I know, it’s hard but not impossible.
Choose Your Values
Another key is, not to compromise on your values. But first off, it is necessary to know them well. And once you do, go by them in every stage of life. Don’t just follow them, but preach them with your slow and steady actions. The only condition is, don’t force it — whether it is you or anyone else. Keep things natural. I know, again it isn’t easier than said. But here the art of life lies in controlling your emotions. Learn it.
Choose Peace And Stability In Your Life
The center of your choices should be peace and stability — no matter what. Make sure you never lose that. Even at the cost of any precious thing in the world, keep your peace a top priority. That’s it.
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